5 Signs You Focus Too Much on The Results — And How To Overcome It
The sole reason we are performing something and working on it is just for one purpose and one purpose only. It is so we can see the results of our long hard work and dedication come. Results are the landscape of why someone didn’t quit after so many hurdles on their way.
The same analogy is just like when you plant a seed so it could grow into a tree and later you could pick the fruit. The fruit here is like the results of your commitment and devotion to what you have planted and grown in the process to achieve it.
Yes, I will not lie, results are the ones who keep us from staying on the path. But I can assure you, focusing on the results would also make you want to quit midway along the process. Why? isn’t that obvious, it is because you didn’t meet and reach your expectations.
So here’s five signs you seriously focus on the results you wish to accomplish and not the process and so how you conquer it along the way.
#1. You think mistakes are a failure.
I know how hard it is for someone not to think about the mistakes they created as failures. However, not everything has to be perfect from the very first start and in the middle of the process.
Someone else’s writing could turn out ugly at the 100 tries, someone else’s product could turn out badly at 50 selling attempts, and someone else’s painting could turn out sloppy at the 150 experiments.
Try to see mistakes as a chance to learn and gain valuable insights into what we should do in the future. Evaluate your mistakes and come back to earn success from your failures before.
#2. You want to make everyone happy.
Maybe right now you could be in a business or doing work with other people or your work involves teamwork and collaboration, so having successful results seems a must for you. If you happen on the conditions I have stated above, you may find conflict stem from miscalculated moves or actions.
Don’t feel so bad about yourself. If anyone feels you did something wrong or even has negative impressions toward you, just let it be, and move on to something more important, such as your goals. You are no GOD, you just a human, all of us. Humans are not perfect and you can’t make everyone happy.
#3. You only see results based on how much money you made or materialistic matters.
Talking about your results based on how much money you can make is just plain senseless. Yeah, I know it’s always about “money” isn’t it? Money is important, of course, but in the journey to attain success and fulfill your goals, money only works as a short-term motivation.
You need more than money to stay on route, you must have a purpose, you must have the right mindset, you must see the growth within you when you are not getting the results you wanted. Are there any significant changes to me? Or no changes at all? Did you learn something from the process? Ask yourself those questions so you can rethink how you’d see your goals.
#4. You dwell on other people’s opinions.
You mustn’t take other people’s opinions heavily. Just collect what is positive for yourself and let the negative ones go away. Distill it. Don’t bother, because if you eventually succeeded, their opinions would vanish on their own. Work very hard until you don’t even have time to hear what they’re saying.
#5. You feel nowhere.
Last but not least, when results are the only things that come to your mind, you are going to feel nowhere. You’d feel stuck in the moment and remain vacant. You’d sense something is missing from every fraction of your life.
To be honest, it isn’t entirely true. For example, someone may not sell their first or second products, but eventually, they would learn how to sell more properly the next time they want to do the same thing again. Of course with the change in some parts of the products from the previous error.
When you’re not focusing on results, there are always things you can learn. You evaluate and experiment, maybe you would succeed at the 100 or 1000 shot. It doesn’t matter as long as you believe in it and take action on what is important. Your growth is all that matters.
Final Thoughts
Results keep motivating us for why we are to start in the very beginning. But not depending on the results, if you want to stay on the trail, you need more than goals and dreams. You should see your failure as part of the journey to be the better version of yourself. How you develop those failures to an advantage is more likely to create a stronger version of you than who you were before.
